For as long as I can remember I have viewed both of my parents in very much the same way: with a fearful respect and naive sense of admiration. Don’t get me wrong I still respect my parents and admire them in a lot of ways, but it comes from a different place as I have gotten older.
I have learned a lot more about the personalities of my parents. My understanding of them as people has become more nuanced.
My mom is someone who tends to be more sensitive to alterations in her environment. My mom is change-averse in a lot of ways. She likes things to be done in the way she learned or seems the best to her. This has been the cause of many disagreements between my mom and I.
My dad on the hand is much more adaptable, I would say. Take for example our various discussions.
Initially, he would probably disagree with me on certain things, usually taking the side of my mom. However, I find that I am often able to reason with him and come to some type of common ground by the end of the conversation.
Being set in their ways is the way my parents differ the most, though even in that aspect it is somewhat marginal. Other than that significant personality difference they are mostly similar. This may be a result of them being married for so long and having their personalities kind of rub off on each other.
As you grow older, seeing your parents as a guardian archetype begins to fade and you begin to see them as humans like yourself. You realize that all while you were growing up they were struggling just as much as you are now. The way in which your relationship changes with your parents as you get older is something that is not discussed often. I hope this gave some insights.
I really related to the part about how your mom likes everything to be because my dad is the exact same way and it's often been the source of arguments and disagreements between us.
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